Late at Night Before Remarrying, What He Asked Wasn't About Japanese Tengsu—It Was What to Get Checked First

A reader messaged me privately: he's preparing to remarry, but he's not confident about his physical condition. He saw people online discussing Japanese Tengsu and wondered if he should buy some to try first. My direct answer was: don't rush to buy anything yet—break the problem down and look at it clearly. What you're really worried about isn't a particular product; it's "can my current condition support a new relationship?" That question can't be answered by a shopping cart—only by a checkup and an honest conversation.

First, define the problem clearly. Anxiety before remarriage usually mixes three things together: physical and mental stamina, expectations about intimacy, and the fear of "what if something goes wrong." These three need to be handled in a different order. Physical and mental stamina can be addressed through daily routines, exercise, sleep, and managing chronic conditions; expectations about intimacy need to be discussed with your partner; and fear often comes from not having enough information. Mix all three together, and you end up endlessly comparing products on shopping pages without ever taking a single step forward.

My friend A-Hong was exactly like this. In his forties, divorced for a few years, he met his current partner and the wedding was set for autumn. One weekend late at night he called me, saying he'd been scrolling on his phone until the early hours, and his search history was full of the names of all kinds of health supplements—the more he looked, the more confused he got. He said, "I'm not trying to become some kind of stud. I just don't want to have problems in front of someone who matters." That was an honest thing to say. We talked until the middle of the night. I didn't give him any advice about what to buy—I only asked him: when was the last time you had a health checkup? He froze, and said he couldn't remember.

After we talked, he did something I thought was exactly right: he swapped "what to buy" for "what to look into." He started researching, including that term he kept seeing—Japanese Tengsu. He didn't place an order. Instead, he wrote his questions down on a piece of paper: How is this type of product classified in Taiwan? What does the packaging say? Should I ask a professional first? Could it interact with the medications and chronic conditions I currently have? He discovered that a lot of discussions lump "health foods" and "medicines" together, but the two are not the same thing at all when it comes to regulations, how you obtain them, and the conditions for using them.

Here's the first criterion for judgment: first confirm whether you're dealing with a food or a medicine. The labeling on the outer packaging, the permit number, and whether it can only be obtained through specific channels are all clues. If something is described like a medicine but sold like a food, that's a reason to be more cautious. The second criterion is the source: unknown daigou sellers, packaging without Chinese labeling—if something goes wrong, there's no one to hold accountable. The third criterion is your own situation: are you taking other medications, do you have chronic conditions, have you had a checkup recently. Until these three points are clarified, any "someone said it works" should not be applied to you.

Counterexamples matter too. Some people say, "My friend took it and said it was great—just buy it first." But "my friend said it's great" isn't evidence; at best it's a clue. Everyone's physical condition, medications, and lifestyle are different. What works for one person may not work for another. Others say, "Anyway, health foods at worst just don't work if you take too much." That thinking is also wrong—anything in excess can put a strain on your body, especially when you're taking several things at once. So what you really need to do isn't pick the one that looks strongest; it's lay out your current list first.

In which situations should you not directly apply what you read online? First, if you're taking prescription medication, any supplement should be discussed with a doctor or pharmacist first, because interactions can't be judged by scrolling through forums. Second, if you have a chronic condition or recent abnormal test results, the priority is dealing with that, not adding another bottle to your cart. Third, if you just want to "buy it and keep it on hand" because of anxiety, buying it usually won't bring peace of mind, because the root of the anxiety hasn't been addressed. Fourth, if the information someone gives you is only personal testimonials with no labeling or source, there isn't even a basis for discussion.

What did A-Hong do in the end? He didn't buy any product. Instead, he booked a health checkup, took the report to talk with a doctor, and brought a list of everything he was currently taking. He also came clean with his fiancée that he was nervous, and after they talked it out, things actually felt much lighter. He said he'd originally thought the problem to solve was "which one to buy," but later realized the problem was "am I willing to face my own condition." That shift wasn't dramatic, but it was practical.

So, back to the original question: if you're feeling uncertain before remarrying, should you try some product first? My answer is: first get three things ready—your sources of information, your own health list, and the people you're willing to open up to and ask. Products can be discussed later, and only after a professional has looked at your situation. What really lets you stand firm in a new relationship isn't what's added to your shopping cart—it's having a clear sense of your own condition and being willing to face it together with the people around you. That kind of preparation is more worth doing first than any trending product.

If you're also scrolling on your phone late at night, typing all kinds of names into the search bar, why not stop for a moment and write the problem down as a list: What am I worried about? What am I currently taking? When was my last checkup? Who can I ask? Take that list to a clinic or pharmacy, and you'll get more answers than any webpage can give you. Anxiety won't disappear because of something you buy, but it will get smaller once you start dealing with it.