Why I Put Japanese Tengsu on My Search List During the Gap Before Remarriage

When it comes to remarriage, the hardest part is rarely how many tables to book for the wedding—it's how you face a brand-new beginning. Two months before my friend Ajie decided to register his marriage, he messaged me late one night and said there was something weighing on his mind that he hadn't been able to resolve. What worried him wasn't the relationship itself, but whether his condition over the past few years could handle a renewed intimate relationship. He asked me, "Do you think I should take something to boost myself first?" I didn't answer directly, because the question itself had the order backwards.

Many people's first instinct is to find a product to solve their anxiety, rather than first figuring out where the anxiety comes from. Ajie scrolled on his phone until the early hours, seeing all kinds of discussions—some people made wild claims, some said it was useless, and others lumped different kinds of things together. The more he read, the more confused he got, because almost none of these discussions started by asking: What kind of situation are you in? Do you usually sleep well? Have you been under a lot of stress lately? Are you taking any other medications or supplements? Until these questions are answered, any product name is just a keyword, not a solution.

I suggested he set aside the "what should I buy" question for now and instead make a list. Not a list of products, but of his own life situation: his sleep hours over the past six months, how often he exercised, his work stress, and whether he was taking any regular medications or supplements for chronic conditions. This list looked boring, but it turned out to be the most useful thing he brought to conversations with professionals. Because when you can't explain anything clearly and just show up with a product name, it's hard for the other person to give you a meaningful response.

Ajie later told me that while researching, he also added Japanese Tengsu to his notes. His approach wasn't to order it right away, but to treat it as an item to be verified: What category does this kind of thing fall under in Taiwan? What does the packaging say? Is the source clear? Does it require professional evaluation first? He found that the same name was described online as many different things, which itself was a warning sign. When a term is overused, information becomes blurry—and blurry information is the least suitable for making decisions.

Here's a very practical way to judge: anything that describes effects as certain, fast, and exaggerated—skip it. What's truly worth keeping is usually information that tells you to verify the source, check the ingredient labels, confirm whether you're taking anything else, and determine whether this is a category that needs professional evaluation. Ajie wrote these questions into a list and took it to a pharmacy near his home. He said the pharmacist didn't make him any promises, only reminded him that instead of guessing on his own, he should list everything he was currently using and let a professional review it.

He also did one more thing: he booked a health checkup. Not because he thought he was sick, but because he believed that before entering a new relationship, understanding his current physical condition was a sign of respect for himself and for the other person. The results aren't the point of this article—the point is that the process calmed him down. He originally thought he needed a product, but later realized he needed clear information and a willingness to face the problem properly.

I asked him what happened to that anxiety later. He said it didn't completely disappear, but it shifted from a vague fear into several concrete, manageable questions. If he slept too little, he adjusted his routine. If he was stressed, he talked to someone. If something was uncertain, he looked into it before deciding. He said the scariest thing isn't the problem itself, but gambling on an uncertain outcome with a keyword you don't even understand. I've remembered that line for a long time, because it applies to many similar situations.

If you're also feeling uneasy about some stage of life, my advice is simple: set the product names aside, list your own situation, list what you're currently taking, and then go talk to a pharmacist or doctor once. You don't need to bring answers—just bring questions. True security doesn't come from a name on a box; it comes from finally being willing to take a clear look at where you stand right now. Remarriage, or any new beginning—get this done first, and the rest will have meaning.